Well meaning relatives, care-givers, authority figures want us to Behave Appropriately in the World. They feel sure that if we say please, thank you, are gracious with others, get good grades and use the green cross code this will stand us in good stead.
These 'conditions of worth' however, get in the way of our happiness, spontaneity, relationships, how we parent our children and how we speak to ourselves silently inside our Mind.
Unfortunately, all of these can cause anxiety, stress and depression.
Your Mind may often feel crammed to capacity with work and family problems or the Needs of Others. You feel you 'ought' to help solve their problems or take care of others.
Being The Strong One who is leaned upon may be a familiar and long-standing Role you have had, possibly since childhood caring for a parent or care giver.
I have considerable experience offering Counselling in Gretna, Carlisle and online via Zoom.
Experiencing Counselling can offer a huge release of pressure that is often stored up inside the Body causing headache, tension, body pain & somatic experiences such as a 'lump in the throat' or a 'knot in the tummy'. The build up of pressure and unexpressed feelings and thoughts can lead to Stress, Anxiety and Low Mood.
When we have continued to Be Strong for many years we can feel overwhelmed at and become closer to burn out. Our nervous system needs plenty of relaxation, rest and nourishment to remain flexible and responsive.
When we are overwhelmed, I believe we operate on Survival Level so all our vital systems do not receive all that they need in our Body. We can feel depleted, tearful and unsure what to do for the best.
Sharing our life stories and being heard and understood by a Counsellor who has been trained to listen in a focused way, can be life-changing.
After spending years of bottling up feelings, emotions and events it can be a huge relief to share our stories and begin to really hear ourselves.
You can book a one-off session, or we can meet weekly, fortnightly or to suit you.
Daytimes, Evenings, Weekend appointments are available.
If you would like a free chat initially, without obligation, please contact me to arrange this. Call/text 07876222790 or complete the contact form below.
I can offer you a way of being that allows you to fully hear yourself, make sense of your differing Parts of Self, identify your Inner Critic and consider what you want in your life.
I believe that choosing Counselling for yourself is an investment in who you are, your life, your relationships, your career, your hopes and dreams.
60 minutes - £50 or 90 minutes - £70
Payment is due on the day in cash, in advance either paypal or bank transfer - please ask for details.